I found Lilah in a newspaper ad back when I was in grade school. She was a big, fluffy black cat with gold eyes, and for some reason her people didn’t want her anymore.
I played with her, fussed over her and even entered her in the school pet show, where she won a red ribbon for her beautiful coat. But Lilah was never really happy with us. Even though they’d given her up, she desperately wanted to be back with her original family.
So, she kept running off. I’d find her under the hedge or crouched among Mom’s rambler roses, thin and bedraggled, her eyes big with misery.
Then, one day, Lilah disappeared for good. We never knew what had happened to her and just hoped that she’d finally found a safe haven with somebody kind and understanding.
Reasons for Rehoming
Some of these reasons are legitimate. And a lot of them, as you learn in the course of doing animal rescue work, aren’t.
A family member develops an allergy to cats. This does happen, unfortunately, but you don’t have to go straight to rehoming. You can get shots to keep it the allergy in check. It’s worth looking into.
There’s a baby on the way. Strangely enough, some people still believe that cats go around sucking the life out of babies or that a pregnant woman will catch toxoplasmosis from cleaning the litter box. Let’s get this straight…
- Cats and babies co-exist beautifully. Often, the cats are very protective of the baby.
- Cats don’t come off the genetic assembly line with toxoplasmosis. They get it from eating birds, who do carry it. You’re more apt to catch the disease from eating undercooked chicken at a reception.
The old cat doesn’t get along with the new cat. Yes, there are cats who need to be The One and Only. Bringing in another cat often stirs things up.
Settling In Takes Time
A couple I know adopted Bella, a young shelter cat, shortly after losing one of their older felines. The survivor, Munchkin, resented the newcomer at first. The husband ended up installing a storm door in the hallway, effectively dividing the house up between the 2 cats.
Munchkin and Bella watched and gradually got used to each other. Six months later, the storm door is still in place but not necessary. The girls are fast friends.
The bottom line is, there are always options. Many rescue organizations, such as Southern California Aby Rescue, will work with you on those options.
The Emotional Toll
Some cats go into a deep depression when their family gives them up. Bartholomew Oliver, a cat rescue worker in the Atlanta area, says he has seen several cats grieve themselves to death.
“They all stop eating and drinking water the first few days,” explains Oliver, who is working with Crush, a red tabby who is still “look[ing] at every passer-by with a hopeful gleam in his eye as if he was thinking, ‘Is that finally my mommy come back to me?’ Then his expression and face would drop onto the floor in disappointment and fear.”
They had to give Crush fluids and vitamins to “keep him from going into fatty liver syndrome, where the liver starts eating its own body tissue to survive.”
If you still feel you need to rehome, here are some things you must do:
- Spay/neuter your cat beforehand. This, as Cat World puts it, “is the only guarantee that [she] won’t be permitted to, or accidentally become pregnant in the future.” It will also make it easier for your pet to find a home.
- Vaccinations need to be current. Make sure that all your cat’s medical records are good to go.
- If your cat is a purebred, contact the breeder first. Any responsible breeder wants to be notified if you’re suddenly unable to care for an animal from the cattery. In fact, most contracts stipulate that. You can also contact a breed-specific rescue group. These groups are highly organized and motivated. They rescue, transport, foster and place out of sheer love for that particular breed.
- “Don’t rehome to just anybody,” warns Cat World. And never include the word “free” in your ad “because sometimes people will take free-to-good-home pets and sell them to animal labs, for practice with fighting dogs, etc.”
- Take a leaf out of that responsible breeder’s book. Let the new family know that they can contact you if it doesn’t work out. Consider it a peace-of-mind guarantee that your pet won’t end up on the streets or in a shelter.