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Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom? Understanding Feline Behavior

Do cats see us as large, clumsy animals — or do they actually think we are their mothers?

T. J. Banks
T. J. Banks

Jul 28, 20142 min read
Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom? Understanding Feline Behavior

Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom? Understanding Feline Attachment

Fostering kittens can offer insight into how cats perceive their human caregivers. When kittens like Milo, Pip, Mr. Rochester, and Oblio get separated from their mother, they often transfer their attachment to their human foster parent. This bond raises the question: do cats think you are their mom?

Kittens quickly adapt to their new environment and start to see their caregiver as a source of food, comfort, and protection. They might greet you excitedly, teethe on your toes, and use your legs as scratching posts. This behavior suggests that they may indeed see you as a substitute for their mother. Learn more about the fostering experience.

Mother-Cat Love: Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom?

In theory, the Gang of 4 should still be with their mother. At 6 weeks old, she would just be starting to wean them. Most mama cats are devoted to their offspring:

  • Constantly bathing them (learn more about why cats hate water) Licking their anuses to encourage elimination
  • Ingesting feces to prevent predators from detecting them

Mother cats are like life coaches, preparing their kittens for the world: Teaching skills for hunting and self-defense

  • Providing a complete education, according to author and veterinarian Ferdinand Mery

Meet the New Mom Cat: What Happens When a Kitten Loses Their Mother?

When a kitten loses or leaves its mother, the impact depends on their age. Responsible breeders, such as those avoiding kitten mills, ensure kittens stay with their mother for at least 12 weeks, sometimes even 16 weeks. At 12-16 weeks, kittens:

Kittens gradually transfer their feelings from their mother to their human caregivers. By the time they are 1 year old, they often forget their biological mom and littermates unless they stay together.

Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom?

According to Dr. Nicholas Dodman, kittens view their human family members as their new family: Each family member may play different roles Well-treated kittens radiate affection and trust

In other words, you represent food, love, and safety to the kitten, making you their new mother. This suggests that indeed, do cats think you are their mom? Quite possibly, yes.

For more on how Abyssinian cats and other breeds perceive their human caregivers, visit CBS News.

Same as the Old Mom Cat? Caring for Young Kittens

If the kittens are very young, they will need you to take on many "mom" responsibilities, such as: Bottle-Feeding Cleanup Play Handling and TLC

Although you may think your cat or kitten views you as their mother, other viewpoints suggest cats use familiar social behaviors. John Bradshaw, an expert in cat behavior from the University of Bristol, told National Geographic:

"We've yet to discover anything about cat behavior that suggests they have a separate box they put us in when they're socializing with us. They obviously know we're bigger than them, but they don't seem to have adapted their social behavior much. Putting their tails up in the air, rubbing around our legs, and sitting beside us and grooming us are exactly what cats do to each other."

For more on fostering kittens and understanding why cats rub around our legs, visit the provided links.

Additional Resources

  • 5 Mama Animals Adopt Babies of Different Species To Cats, We're Big Mom Cats
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T. J. Banks
About T. J. Banks

T.J. Banks is the author of several books, including Catsong, which received a Merial Human–Animal Bond Award. A contributing editor to laJoie, T.J. also has received writing awards from the Cat Writers’ Association (most recently a Certificate of Excellence in 2019), as well as from ByLine and The Writing Self. Her work has appeared in numerous anthologies, including Chicken Soup for the Single Parent’s Soul and A Cup of Comfort for Women in Love, and T.J. has worked as a stringer for the Associated Press, as an instructor for the Writer’s Digest School and as a columnist.

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  • Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom? Understanding Feline Attachment
  • Mother-Cat Love: Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom?
  • Meet the New Mom Cat: What Happens When a Kitten Loses Their Mother?
  • Do Cats Think You Are Their Mom?
  • Same as the Old Mom Cat? Caring for Young Kittens
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