Jealousy & fighting (6 replies)
A neighbor handed me a Shih Tzu (male, 3-4 yrs. old, I had him neutered), about a month ago. I have two other dogs, both female, one is 7, the other 5. The two females have never been close but tolerate each other. The Shih Tzu has the sweetest, most loving personality until he gets around the other two. Then, all three are tense and a fight breaks out. I have managed to stop the fights before any of them gets hurt, but the situation is getting worse and not better.
Help! I show love and discipline equally. I feed them with discipline. They eat in separate places. They are great outside, but inside, I'm on constant alert for a possible fight.
Is there a remedy for this? I am almost at the end of my rope. I'm seriously considering hiring a dog trainer to help.
Please give me some suggestions. I don't want to put the Shih Tzu up for adoption, but if things keep going the way they are, I am going to have to before he hurts one of my other two dogs, both of whom are smaller than he is.
Hi glf! Boy that's a tough situation. There is a lot of territoriality going on, it sounds like. You may want to think about hiring a trainer, and/or talking to the vet to get their advice. (Good vets are always open to questions from clients.) Over time, some pets adjust to one another and are fine, and others don't. It really can be down to personalities. I pet sit for two Shih-Tzus and they get along great, but one hates other dogs and the other one doesn't mind them xD
You're so right about the territoriality issue. And, each one is as if she or he was a n only child, so to speak. Jealous. I finally realized that I was the main problem by not assuming more or an alpha dog role. This has helped, but it hasn't completely stopped the fighting. I can leave the two females alone with no problem, but I cannot leave the male with them for more than 30 minutes or so at a time. Outside, though, in the backyard, they all three get along great, playing or doing their own thing.
Things are better, but they need to be even more so. I have talked to my vet and am in search of a good trainer.
Thanks for your suggestions.
Definitely keep us posted on how they do!
You are absolutely right.. We have German Shepherds and a Shih Tzu all was well until the New Baby started getting bigger and bigger.. Lol.. Poor Oliver always loses his spot in the Pack Order.. And that is what seems to be happening.. It will take a little time since you just recently got him Neutered but, it will calm down a bit.. Are the other Females larger dogs or the same size breed? Ours has the SAME personality but, he is no push over either. Ours worked it out eventually and I did have to play referee a few times...They are resilient little dogs but, like you said... YOU must be the ALPHA over all.. and they must know that you mean business if they get out of line.. Remove the instigator... separate the problem child and they will all eventually come to know that when "Mom" is around.. they better behave 😀
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